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[ashlyme]

So my parents passed the census over for a neighbour to do (I offered but my netbook Eustace is a glitchy unreliable bastard at the best of times) and now Solihull Council thinks I'm a straight man. HAHAHAHAHAFUCKNO.

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[sovay]

and now Solihull Council thinks I'm a straight man.

It's like being your own beard.

[ashlyme]

Yeah. That. My parents aren't homophobic (my brother is, and I avoid the bastard when he visits) - but there is so much they don't get, and it frustrates me at times. I feel like crying. I've never felt able to explain being nonbinary to them. I wish I could just tell them "I'm your daughter." They'd struggle, but that they could get. It crowns a week of dysphoria and some horrible flashbacks I really could have done without. *hugs if okay* Do you know where I can get a stealth non-binary pin badge from?

[sovay]

Do you know where I can get a stealth non-binary pin badge from?

Actually, yes.

(Tab Kimpton is the source of my Sir Fabulous and Captain Sashay T-shirts, also the excellent Minority Monsters (2017) which I recently sent my godchild along with Sir Fabulous. And I like their comics.)

A week of dysphoria and flashbacks would have been enough, really, and you shouldn't have had to deal with it, either.

*many, many hugs*

[ashlyme]

*Actually, yes.*

Oh you star. <3 I love that it's diamond-shaped, too. I'm buying that. It can migrate from coat to coat with the Mystery Fox pin. May've to buy Minority Monsters too.

I feel better today: partially the Equinox, partially a rare ten hours' sleep. The tape-loop that drove me to bed I hope not to hear again for a long long time though. *hugs back*

[sovay]

I love that it's diamond-shaped, too. I'm buying that.

I look forward to seeing it on your coat!

*hugs*

I feel better today: partially the Equinox, partially a rare ten hours' sleep.

I utterly forgot it was the spring until I got up and saw everyone posting about it! Yesterday was so hectic. I will go outside for it. I slept, too, and Autolycus is doing better.

[rydra_wong]

Etsy is very good for finding badges and assorted small sneaky items in pride colours.

ETA: also I went straight to "useful information!" and zipped right past: I am really fucking sorry that you have to deal with this.

[ashlyme]

Thank you. <3

[strange_complex]

If you think Eustace can handle it, you can request an individual access code and override that answer. No-one in your household will know if you do it.

[ashlyme]

Thank you. <3

[cmcmck]

I refused the religion question and the gender identity question.

But I would say to anyone to answer them if they make you feel more comfortable, especially if you are of NO religion (I'm a Quaker).

Trouble with the gender ID question is that the usual suspects (terfs + transphobes) got a court judgement to prevent it from being of any real use. Having been born with PAIS, I'm intersexed as well as trans but it didn't allow for any explanation, so no.

[ashlyme]

Religion's a bit tough for me - I usually say "atheist" because nobody offers the "godless heathen" option! If I'd had the chance, l'd have ticked "liminal" on both options.

I have some reasons to think I *may* be intersex - but some of them are tangled up with horrible events and it's not something I want to research right now.

[cmcmck]

I can understand that. I only found out that I had an intersex condition when I went onto medication to deal with trans issues and they found that the anti androgens sent me weird because I wasn't snythesising androgens anyway.

Suddenly my short height, small hands, high cheekbones, small brow ridge, tiny ears and so on all made sense!